I have a favourite child and YOU do too.
Here’s a dirty little secret. I have a favourite child. And if you have more than one then you do too. !! Now before you get out the pitchforks and deny it, think about it. Go on admit it. YOU DO !! If you’re still sitting there and saying ‘not me you disgusting wanker’ then I’m here to tell you this. You’re either lying to yourself or lying to everyone else.
Ok, it’s not quite what you think.
Let me explain by telling you about my children.
My oldest child is almost 10, he’s very cerebral but not AT ALL hands on. I love him the most when I want to do something historical, whether that be watching a documentary, having a discussion about something, visit a museum, make plans to build something or hear a long and involved theory about pretty much anything, when I want an excuse to build Lego or watch Star Wars, oldest child is my favourite child. In that moment oldest child is the absolute best.
When I want to go out for a walk, hear about old cars, go to a classic car rally, need somebody to do a job or just tinker about on yard projects, middle child is my favourite. He’s a hands on kind of guy but absolutely does not like to be bossed about. Asking him to do something that’s not on his terms is asking for disaster scale meltdowns, those occasions are for oldest child. He’s also an enigma. He doesn’t let you in to his thought processes, if you want to know what a child is thinking, then you follow oldest child’s constant vocal train of thought. The upshot is that life with middle child is a lot quieter (unless he has pent up energy to release). Middle child is hands on in all the ways oldest child is not.
Well you go to youngest child if you want to laugh, if you want side splittingly funny grown up concepts from the mouth of a toddler then he’s your child (and i’m not talking rude or sweary ) . Do you Like Scooby Doo? Toddler child will spend all day watching scooby with you. ALL DAY. He also knows most of the lyrics to Queen’s greatest hits, a fair bit of KISS’s back catalogue and he “Huv’s David Bowie”. If you just want to experience a love of life, spend time with my toddler. It’s when I need those moments that, youngest child is my favourite child.
See what I mean? Now do you realise?
Yes of course you love them all equally but you DO have favourites and that mainly depends on your mood, their mood and what you need to get done. They are all my favourites because they are brilliant at totally different things (they all push my buttons in totally different ways too but that’ll be a different blog post – entitled ” You’re all my least favourites”).